A Life Well Lived – Josh Potter

Going out dancing with your mates. Travelling the world working with organisations like the World Health Organisation sneaking backstage to get Cliff Richard’s autograph.

“At the Olympia if you were clever you could actually, there was a back way and you could actually get autographs there if you knew what you were doing.”

That’s Michelle. She’s one of the people Engage are linked with. She and her befriender often chat about Reading in the 60s, about the dance halls and bowling alleys. She used to go out camping in the woods, exploring and adventuring, only returning home when she had run out of food.

Or there is Keith, whose life travelling the world has led to all manner of fascinating stories, including meetings with members of the royal family. This is all recollected very matter-of-factly, of course. To Keith it was just part of life.

Or maybe the adventures are closer to home. Maybe it’s about the friends you met along the way, like Julia, whose social life took a massive hit when Covid-19 knocked on Britain’s door.

Lest we forget, life is lived by all

It seems a simple idea, that life is lived by all, that we all have stories to share. Yet who among us can say we have not forgotten? We get so consumed by our own lives, caught in our own worlds. We don’t realise that going out dancing with your mates could mean heading to the Purple Turtle. Or it might mean heading to the best dance hall in the 1960s for a night of swing dancing and jive.

And sneaking backstage? Well maybe Cliff Richard isn’t your cup of tea. Maybe you prefer the latest to headline Glastonbury. Just remember when you’re jumping up and down to Billie Eilish singing Bad Guy in a crowd of thousands that fifty years ago your grandparents just might have been doing the same thing.

Enter Engage

Engage work with the elderly and isolated. Individuals who find themselves in their later years alone and unable to engage as much with society as they would want. The concept is simple. A conversation. A phone call – or a visit once COVID-19 dies down – once a week or so to chat. Volunteers, called Befrienders, make the call, chatting with their Befriendee about anything and everything under the sun.

It’s about remembering that the isolated are human too, that they have lives lived. You might talk about the past, about memories from a time gone by. You might talk about the present, about the exciting and the mundane.

Conversation is a two-way street

Who knows? Conversation is a two-way street after all, it’s an image of each of you growing in the mind of the other. Maybe you love to go dancing in Reading’s modern clubs. Maybe you love travelling and want to learn about the world. Maybe you love hosting people, swapping tips and tricks for the best house party.

And you might learn about the personal experiences of past events.

“I remember him telling me that they had been bombed out, literally their house had been bombed during the war and the challenges with that and the whole evacuation process.”

Not all the stories are fun and light, as Janine, a volunteer for Engage, points out. But that’s the importance of remembering. The past several decades on this planet have harvested a great deal of tales, and whether you are eighty-five or eighteen, you’ve accumulated your fair share.

Everyone has a story

Whatever your age and your background, your ethnicity and your sexual orientation, you have a story. And there is more in our stories that unites us with each other than there is that divides us.

Connor, another volunteer for Engage, said it best. “I always feel that I’ve succeeded if I’ve made somebody laugh. You come off the phone and you’ve both had a laugh and you feel so much better.”

Perfect. A chat and a laugh. A conversation. A way of remembering that we all have lives. Whether life for you began in the 1950s or the 2000s, we’ve all lived our own experiences and we all have stories to tell.

Note: Names have been changed to protect people’s privacy.

Delivering Christmas Gifts

Members of the Engage staff team were out and about this week delivering Christmas gifts to the isolated older people we know who have been unable to have their usual face to face visits this year. They have been so appreciate of phone calls from their befrienders but we wanted to bring them a little additional Christmas cheer through door step delivery. Thanks to everyone who made it possible.

Telephone Befriending Referrals During Covid-19

We’re extending our new telephone befriending service in response to the Coronavirus risks in the UK.

If you are or a relative of yours is over 55, living alone, and would like someone to call once a week during this difficult time, please fill in our Referral form and email it to

If you have any queries, please call 0118 956 7000, when asked select option 2 and leave a message. The answering machine is being checked regularly and we will get back to you as soon as possible.

Telephone Befriending Volunteers During Covid-19

Due to pausing our in-person visits because of the high risks of Coronavirus in the UK, we have moved all our befriending visits to phone calls. We want to extend this service to anyone in Reading who is over 55 and living alone.

This means we need you! If you already have a DBS check and you are willing to call an isolated person who is over 55 just to talk, we will provide online training and support for you.

Here’s our Volunteer Application Form. Once you have filled it in please email it to

Any queries please call 0118 956 7000, when asked select option 2 and leave a message. The answering machine is being checked regularly and we will get back to you as soon as possible.


We have paused all our face-to-face visits to our clients for the time being. This is to keep both our clients and volunteers safe in the current circumstances. However, in order for us to continue to connect elderly people in Reading with a befriender, all our current clients are receiving regular phone calls.

We are working on extending this phone befriending service, there will be more information to follow shortly.

Volunteer Training

Can you spare an hour per week to visit an older person living near you?

Our next volunteer training events are Tuesday 24th March 7.30pm and Thursday 26th March at 10am.

To book in call Engage Befriending 0118 9567000

Or email

Friendship Volunteer Evening

Engage Befriending recently joined with other partners in the town to celebrate those who volunteer in friendship roles. Tackling loneliness is important and it only takes an hour or so of volunteering to make a significant difference in someone’s life. The evening was designed to celebrate all those who do this within organisations across the town.

The evening included food, opportunity to meet other volunteers, Keynote speeches and a table exercise which encouraged sharing of some great ideas. Well done to Rob and Roy, from Engage Befriending, who took part in the live chat show!

Watch the video to enjoy an overview of the evening.